My Ten boosters to balance Self-Esteem

1.Self Awareness. Appreciate yourself.Know that you have unique strengths, talents and qualities, and the ability to make changes, learn, grow and just be. Affirm who you are, know yourself, the limitations, boundaries and strong areas that makes up you.Being self aware helps us to think before we react

2.Positive MindsetThe way we think has a huge impact on how we see the world.With a determined mind, hard work and practice, the obstacles of life can be conquered. For example saying to yourself "Oh your so dumb! ; That's such a stupid idea or No, its not going to work out" is saying to yourself that you are not good enough to get the job done. Be positive towards yourself, and tell yourself that you can.

3. Good communication skillsBody language makes up 80% of communication. First impressions have a huge effect on how others see you. Are you open, warm and friendly? or is your body telling other signs of how you feel. In a state of emotional up rest or when your stressed, hurt or upset, this is the time to see things from other perspective.
Aggro's communicators tend to verbally attack people as well as issues they dislike. They are saying, "Iam more important than you!'. Use I message when communicating, as they look after others feelings. Try to understand what it is the other person is saying-really listen with body and soul


4.Don't compare yourself to othersThis leads to jealously, as there is always areas others a better at. Look for areas within yourself that you are successful at. With wealth, know that there are so many people that are worst off than you. With beauty, everyone gets their fair share of test, so don't turn against someone more beautiful than you. With popularity, it comes and goes, and some people shin because they put the effort in their area of strength. You too need to see the positives. Don't overstress the negatives.Be happy for others, we are one humanity that welcomes each others accomplishments

6.Make goals and accomplish themThis is a big booster to self esteem. Nothing like completing the task. Be careful of having a sense of failure. With effort and support, goals can be reached one step at a time.See my blog on goals

7. Make a contributionDo your actions and intentions for a higher purpose. Don't be selfish. When we think of others or help others, God looks on us with compassion. You also feel good. Think, what impact in my own way, can I have on the world in a good manner? Look at your potential and you will see that you can give so much more, even if it be to those you love. Participation is the key

8.Have goods social support and supportive individuals like role models
Social networks that are healthy, are very important for good self esteem and mental health. Friends that are positive, caring and show respect and love are protective factors to health. External messages from family, parents, peers, school, work place, media, Internet and general society can effect our internal view. Your beliefs and attitude is a reflection of this internal view. Reflections that you make about who you are effect self esteem.

9. Be ActiveCant emphasis this enough.There is so many positive benefits of having a active lifestyle. A University report found that an increase positive self-esteem through a more positive body image. Other benefits include improve health, reductions in back and period pain; reduce tiredness and stress.

10.Reading, and for a Muslim, reading the Quran, is a positive guidance's and inspiring lessons to be learnt.Book's lessons and words can relate to ones life. Take time out to read about great people of the past, or the many self development and spiritual development books that give tools and tips to contribute to your unique life

So there it is. Armed with the shield of self-esteem and the sword of faith, I hope that you will be able to walk into any battle!