Advising others

Mashallah haven had time to look at blogs or write in my blog for a while now. Kids have been such a handful alhumidallah. I have been reading alot and just finish this great little book called "The road to good friendship" by Abdul Malki Al-Qasim, a darusslam publications. I like Darussalum publications as they usually publish goo sounding literature. Some of what I like I will quote here, as reference for myself ( I borrowed the book )and as a reminder for all.


In reference to advising another:

The shahabes use to smile alot and were "merciful amongs themselves" (The glorious word of God, Quran (48:29)

Advice softly,so one refrains from the sin, encouraging them to return to correctness.

Soft admonishment using kind words and reminding one of allahswt, are basis of good advice.

Hate the sin,but do not hate the person, make thanks to Allahswt that you don't do it.

Make dua, invoking our Merciful Lord, that he/she returns to the rigth way inshallah ameen ( Iam thinking of some close to my heart here )

Have good mannerism. Mashallah this book has alot of good advice about good conduct and manners, and how it requires forbearance, humbleness and graciousness, especially when one confronts or is confronted in public.

A believer always advises in confidence.

Take the middle road.

Respect others without aggression or excessiveness. Excessiveness is always criticized and rejected.


Many of the shahabes had a beaming face-smile.This is one I think is beautiful and important, as you can really make one's d with a smile or hug.

And a ahadith from another book

“Be mindful of God wherever you are, and follow up any misdeed you might do with a good deed that will wipe it out (being weightier in the scale). And deal with people on the basis of good character.” Imam Abu ‘Isa Muhammad bin ‘Isa at-Tirmidhi, Jami’ at-Tirmidhi

Mashallah islam puts empathises on good character, good mannerism; good heart and good conducted to all. Inshallah may our character be one that is pleasing to Allahswt

Childrens Quran

What a beautiful day today in Perth mashallah. My son hurt his foot jumping on the trampoline, so we have been doing activities on the net (mainly quran). Every day I get my boys to spend a small amount of time (depending on age)listening to Quran. I like them to listen to Quran so they follow the way the qari is reciting, following the tajwid.

My favourite site for my 5 year old is www.harfkids.com

MY favourite site for my 10 year old is www.listen2quran.com

My site I like to listen to is www.quranexplorer.net/Quran

I also like iqrafoundation.com for its prophets stories for kids.

I like my 10 year old to know what he is reading, so i try to go over the english trans-literation with him. I find he sometimes gets more interested in his Surat, from understanding the meaning.

Iam going to beginner Arabic classes once a week, which makes me soo much more aware of the meaning of words in my surats. My fathers Lebanese, yet I only know a hand full of words. A victim of focusing on my dominate language (English) as a child, and thus losing what Arabic I new by the age of 10 years. One of my step-sons can speak Malaysian and English well, and the other ones lost his malay as he grew up and can only speak English. I suppose its very important to always speck their native language to their child from young, regardless of the dominate culture language, if not, they could lose or reject it their native parents language.

Family and outings

I have been taking time to really enjoy my family laterly. I try to take my boys every second day somewhere (when my oldest is not at school), so they can enjoy what God has given them them. When we are enjoying some aspect of life, I remind them to be grateful to the Creator for giving them the means to have the experience they are having. So if I take them to the park, or a swimming lesson or having ice cream, I remind us all as a family how bless we are to have these activities or food. I hope to instill into my family how to enjoy the small things in life, to be grateful and content that we have the ability to run free under a beautiful blue sky. Living in Perth, we have some of the best weather. Beautiful blue skies, without a cloud in sigth and a cool breezes makes the spring.

My children play in the big, back garden, running around annoying each others lol. Once in a while i hear a scream and have to check everything is a ok. Alhumidallah (Thank God!)it always is with boys but I have to monitor because of their age gaps and so different physical levels. I use to really be against play figthing when my boys were younger, but I learnt in child development is it a normal way for boys and young man to experience a safe (lol) method of letting out energy and strength.Like experimental how far can I go before I hurt the other. So I monitor even through I dislike it (why cant boys just sit and read a book for a hour ;)).

So Iam going outside now to enjoy a cuppa (cup of tea ;)) with my hubby in our great outdoors. Yes Australia is a country with great out doors. You would not believe how much the land scape can change. About eigth years ago , my husband and some of my inlaws and myself did a cross country road trip from Perth to Brisbane. Thats about 5000 kms to cover going through W.A (Western Australia) Nullabour desert( freezing cold at nigth), than througth South Australia with desert and green hills (it was winter), than to Broken Hill (New south wales)bush and and wild flowers and dry beds( my mum lived here as a child- a good old aussie town where everyone looks at you funny cause I had a scarf on and they only see muslim woman once in a life time lol)than up to beautiful rainforst and house on stills in Queensland until we arrived in humid Brisbance. The land scape changed so many times and yet its all in one huge country.

That trip taugth me alot, especially how beautiful and different our Creator made this earth and how travelling is a eye opener to the soul and teachs you how insignicant we are in the huge, plan of things. I means there is this huge earth to be explored and be remindered of how great God is, in the red, black, white, brown, grey of dirt that one sees as they travel. May be we more grateful and not forget the bigger plan of what this life holds.