Advising others

Mashallah haven had time to look at blogs or write in my blog for a while now. Kids have been such a handful alhumidallah. I have been reading alot and just finish this great little book called "The road to good friendship" by Abdul Malki Al-Qasim, a darusslam publications. I like Darussalum publications as they usually publish goo sounding literature. Some of what I like I will quote here, as reference for myself ( I borrowed the book )and as a reminder for all.


In reference to advising another:

The shahabes use to smile alot and were "merciful amongs themselves" (The glorious word of God, Quran (48:29)

Advice softly,so one refrains from the sin, encouraging them to return to correctness.

Soft admonishment using kind words and reminding one of allahswt, are basis of good advice.

Hate the sin,but do not hate the person, make thanks to Allahswt that you don't do it.

Make dua, invoking our Merciful Lord, that he/she returns to the rigth way inshallah ameen ( Iam thinking of some close to my heart here )

Have good mannerism. Mashallah this book has alot of good advice about good conduct and manners, and how it requires forbearance, humbleness and graciousness, especially when one confronts or is confronted in public.

A believer always advises in confidence.

Take the middle road.

Respect others without aggression or excessiveness. Excessiveness is always criticized and rejected.


Many of the shahabes had a beaming face-smile.This is one I think is beautiful and important, as you can really make one's d with a smile or hug.

And a ahadith from another book

“Be mindful of God wherever you are, and follow up any misdeed you might do with a good deed that will wipe it out (being weightier in the scale). And deal with people on the basis of good character.” Imam Abu ‘Isa Muhammad bin ‘Isa at-Tirmidhi, Jami’ at-Tirmidhi

Mashallah islam puts empathises on good character, good mannerism; good heart and good conducted to all. Inshallah may our character be one that is pleasing to Allahswt