My values and how they would influence the children in my care.

I think it soo important to look at our values and see how they impact on our children and other ppls children. Its eye opening to see that children have soo much potential if we are willing to see their true worth. 

Achievement- I get great satisfaction from being busy and productive and have determination to reach my goals, make changes, and benefit others especially in what benefits children.

Commitment-children can be  reliable and get the job done. It is essential to observe,  learn and implement  new ideas/methods on how to embrace the unexpected and expand the interests of children, to achieve optimal levels of learning and playing  which indicates a commitment to the children in our care.

Quality relationships: Children teach  us about life and about ourselves, and we need to make time to really listen and learn from them.  Adult carers with their parents and caregivers are the first mentors in the life of the child. The more positive  and attuned they are,as  adults,  will affect the childs upbringing and sense of belonging.  Engaging with others, especially people who are cultural and/or religiously different.

Knowledge .We should equip children with the skills, good habits and values to be able to be lifelong learners and contributors to the world around them.

Self respect  and Self-awareness. Respect and understanding of self and others Children should be exposed too and taught  the skills of compassions and respect for others. Children be given positive feedback, how ever small,  about their actions,is essential  to assist them to believe in themselves and be self aware.

Work independently .Responsible over themselves and those they lead.This value influnces children in that if there is good  leadership and  time management, this will  maintain good stress levels and well being for the children.

We have to take good care of the next generation to produce beautiful children we great qualities and values. The role models of tomor will be produced today. My beautiful boys I hope that will impact the world in a good and noble way inshallah ameen!

 I think any girl or woman for that matter, that is outspoken,has a strong personality and is passionate about what she believes will be treated with a unfavorable  response from other girls/woman time to time. I believe I was a outspoken and strong teenager   & as the years went by, the put downs, gossip, nasty comments coming from girls and woman that cant handle seeing another girl or woman shine, does bring you down at times. Its about their insecurities, their jealousies and need to feel they are more important than another. Its from a lack of understanding oneself strengths, capabilities. Some woman need to limit another woman more intelligent than them, or more outgoing than them, or more beautiful than them, or more popular than them. Its a trait some woman have.

 I tell  young female teenager that are being put down or bullied by others,  that your ability to believe in yourself, to voice your opinions, to be you is only a assest and many will be treaten by it. Yet keep going because you are so needed in thie world of fake personalities. Keep good freinds, look for quality not quanility, and know the best of freinds, the healer and supporter of all, Allahswt is by your side.

 Trails and test with ppl are a way to mould us to be stronger, to be closer and more purer in our love to out Creator and our true purpose in life. Try to minimise your time around these girls & keep a journal of your thoughs, mind set, how your feeling.

 Than each day write one thing positive or beautiful about yourself or kind comments/advices other sincern, caring girls/woman have given you, so you have it stored and it can be a something you can look back to when your feeling your "bucket" being dipped out, where others have rob some of the water of life from it.So many ppl dont know the deeper beauty under the surface.

There are so many  young, talented and amazing girls out there but do not realise their true worth because of basing their opinion of themselves on what others think.  Let the haters out of your heart and mind. I did many years ago :)

My Ten boosters to balance Self-Esteem

1.Self Awareness. Appreciate yourself.Know that you have unique strengths, talents and qualities, and the ability to make changes, learn, grow and just be. Affirm who you are, know yourself, the limitations, boundaries and strong areas that makes up you.Being self aware helps us to think before we react

2.Positive MindsetThe way we think has a huge impact on how we see the world.With a determined mind, hard work and practice, the obstacles of life can be conquered. For example saying to yourself "Oh your so dumb! ; That's such a stupid idea or No, its not going to work out" is saying to yourself that you are not good enough to get the job done. Be positive towards yourself, and tell yourself that you can.

3. Good communication skillsBody language makes up 80% of communication. First impressions have a huge effect on how others see you. Are you open, warm and friendly? or is your body telling other signs of how you feel. In a state of emotional up rest or when your stressed, hurt or upset, this is the time to see things from other perspective.
Aggro's communicators tend to verbally attack people as well as issues they dislike. They are saying, "Iam more important than you!'. Use I message when communicating, as they look after others feelings. Try to understand what it is the other person is saying-really listen with body and soul


4.Don't compare yourself to othersThis leads to jealously, as there is always areas others a better at. Look for areas within yourself that you are successful at. With wealth, know that there are so many people that are worst off than you. With beauty, everyone gets their fair share of test, so don't turn against someone more beautiful than you. With popularity, it comes and goes, and some people shin because they put the effort in their area of strength. You too need to see the positives. Don't overstress the negatives.Be happy for others, we are one humanity that welcomes each others accomplishments

6.Make goals and accomplish themThis is a big booster to self esteem. Nothing like completing the task. Be careful of having a sense of failure. With effort and support, goals can be reached one step at a time.See my blog on goals

7. Make a contributionDo your actions and intentions for a higher purpose. Don't be selfish. When we think of others or help others, God looks on us with compassion. You also feel good. Think, what impact in my own way, can I have on the world in a good manner? Look at your potential and you will see that you can give so much more, even if it be to those you love. Participation is the key

8.Have goods social support and supportive individuals like role models
Social networks that are healthy, are very important for good self esteem and mental health. Friends that are positive, caring and show respect and love are protective factors to health. External messages from family, parents, peers, school, work place, media, Internet and general society can effect our internal view. Your beliefs and attitude is a reflection of this internal view. Reflections that you make about who you are effect self esteem.

9. Be ActiveCant emphasis this enough.There is so many positive benefits of having a active lifestyle. A University report found that an increase positive self-esteem through a more positive body image. Other benefits include improve health, reductions in back and period pain; reduce tiredness and stress.

10.Reading, and for a Muslim, reading the Quran, is a positive guidance's and inspiring lessons to be learnt.Book's lessons and words can relate to ones life. Take time out to read about great people of the past, or the many self development and spiritual development books that give tools and tips to contribute to your unique life

So there it is. Armed with the shield of self-esteem and the sword of faith, I hope that you will be able to walk into any battle!