Positive discipline

Violence doesn't teach respect, discipline is taught when respect is shown, discipline is knowing how to create a balance for needs and wants. Discipline is calm, understanding and listens to both sides. Discipline looks after the heart and body. Discipline is not establish in an environment of hurt and hostility, which create resentment, resistance, rebellion (or compliance with lowered self-esteem). Closeness and trust create a safe learning environment. You have a positive influence only in an atmosphere of closeness and trust where there is no fear of blame, shame or pain. Positive discipline is needed everyday for a little heart to understand right and wrong. It establish the scene of direction and teaches responsibility and respect.Discipline teaches suitable,child age appropriate life skills, is kind and firm at the same time. It brings up children with morals and the ability to follow rules and think for themselves. How we handle our emotions and words, will have the most impact on how we bring up our children-to teach respect we need to be respectful of little arms, little feet, and little hearts #againstchildabuse

Jane Nelsen gives the following criteria for “effective discipline that teaches”:

FIVE CRITERIA FOR POSITIVE DISCIPLINE 

1. Helps children feel a sense of connection. (Belonging and significance)
2. Is mutually respectful and encouraging. (Kind and firm at the same time.)
3. Is effective long - term. (Considers what the child is thinking, feeling, learning, and deciding about himself and his world – and what to do in the future to survive or to thrive.)
4. Teaches important social and life skills . (Respect, concern for others, problem solving, and cooperation as well as the skills to contribute to the home, school or larger community.)
5. Invites children to discover how capable they are. (Encourages the constructive use of personal power and autonomy.)

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