My aspirations

For a while now I have put my major goal of studying and completing my degree on the back-burner so I can focus on my aspiration to enjoy motherhood more and to take it one day at a time, due to health reasons. Iam really enjoying the slower pace of life (will there is many things to do everyday, but Iam less stress and more content inside), so I take things as bearable and more inspired to live in the moment. Living in the moment is a wonderful experience, as you truely take things in that I use to kind of brush them by, or go thru one ear and come out of the other. Like for example, I LISTEN to my children, now most busy mums do HEAR their child's conversation, but they dont listen and take in the full extent of what the child is saying both on a emotional and physical level.The depth of what you hear and what you take in that is not mention, is deeper and the relationship more enriched, be it a understanding smile or a sincern nod.

I have always aspired to bring up my children pleasing Allahswt and being aware of his companunship to them in their life. My mother holds a unwritten slogan to trust in Allshwt, put your full belief, worry and conviction to him and he swt, as the protector, sustainer, all-hearing and knowing, well be by your side.

My goals now are more to educate my children more at home, taking more time to enjoy and expore the learning journey. My sister inlaw said a really wise thing to me yesterday, which is tt to focus on the here and now and that we want to give our children a love of learning, so they will be life-long learners. Imagine what a gift a mother can give to her child as her ressurances and a source of information. One of the best things I remerber as I grew up ,was that my mother tried to answer all my questions. I sure asked alot of questions and the fact I felt comfortable to listen (not always follow lol ;) her advice shows her eargerness to aspire myself to learn more.

One of the things my mother said to me as a teenager that rings in my ear till today, was the beauty that Islam allows you to question, ask questions so one can learn and seek understanding. How ever we school our children, if we can give the gift of a open ear, understanding and be a source of love and inspiration for their learning, than how very great and noble our roles of motherhood is.

Islam isnt what you think it is

Is it not a great thing to have faith? People are always talking about stupid things that are done in the name of Islam that are not even from Islam! I mean just recenlty I read the heading of a newspaper articule which said "Somaila lady lash for having a bra"...now thats really dumb because all the muslim woman I know wear bras and nothing has happen to them. A good sports bra is very much needed in exercise, and being a muslim woman doesnt make us some weird person that cant wear a bra...i mean how dumb can some people be?

Iam annoyed of people thinking weird of Muslim Woman and Islam. If they open their heart they would see the truth instead of making up lies out of total ignorance and believing anything the media and dumb-bos know it all say! For Gods sake doesnt anyone question or do they just accept yep it must be so?

There is a common sense explanation for many aspect of Islam that others want to wang a finger too, include the face-cover ( ohhh mmy God they covered their percious face!!!). They dont understand how inspirating, uplifting and confident these woman are who CHOOSE to cover. This list could go on from more then one wife to using a tooth stick from a special tree miswak fro brushing the teeth. How old-age one may say, but if you new the spiritual and health benefits, it would put modern western medicine to shame.

So next time you see a Muslim Woman or a practicing muslims for that matter, instead of feeling sorry for their pitiful soul or being anger for their existence on this earth, open your heart, over look all the lies you hear and read, and start to ask the question what is really Islam? You WIILL be surprise by the truth. Most people wont as they are too scared to embracing any thinking outside the box they think in, or live in ;)

Saying can change the way u think

I like these two saying and when I find good sayings, Iam going to post them up to remind myself.

Ibn Ata'illah said " Do not keep company with anyone who state does not inspire you and whose speech does not lead you Allahswt"

Ali RA said "Resignation to the will of God is the cure of the disease of the heart."

Its all about true faith. If my friends and people i take company with inspire me to do and be great things than I will feel more ready to succeed. Anyone who has suffered depression, even for a day, understands how uninspired one FEELS and how the mind really narrows in thinking. When we resign and accept things in life that we neither have any control over nor can change, than in that way we give ourselves some kind of peace and closure, or the very least acceptance to deal with it in the best way we can.

I know that islam and having faith has been my true companion in my darkes hour...My heart really goes out to a person without faith. How lost and unvalued one would feel to be without a higher companion to turn to in pray. To have that protection and assurances that comes with knowing I can turn to my creator, sustainer and provider and he will answer me some how, some time. We just have to open our heart to see the signs of God gifts everywhere. Truly a person without faith is lost in their own world, unsure if what they are doing is truly rigth and a lack of fulfullment of what am I here for. What a gift is faith, iman belief in a God who will do justice on a Day of Judgement. Very old teaching for all times, a mordern world needs justice.

Life

Life just keeps on going. Its funny how a person can be in a certain state of mind and others know how they are feeling or are kind of aware of their situation ,but continue to go on in life either ignoring or unsure how to help that person. Once the true understanding comes in to life, its not one that you want to embrace with flying colours. One thing I dislike about life is my boys figthing. Now they have very different personally and my oldest, he has a testing character. They tease and annoy each other and it just wears me down. I dont hit and i try not to shout. I feel its better to stay calm. But I feel sometimes its sooo hard dealing with kids. You want to show a good example to them, mould them in the rigth way and let them explore all that this life has to hold, but in doing that you want them to have good manners, be grateful and kind and appreciate the small things instead of quickly growing up.

I study child development and social sciences...how community works, the need for connection by all, the importances of a well-balance, stress-free upbringing...soo many factors to count in. Especially living in Aus, I know we are very blessed in how we live. A person wouldnt think much about turning a warm shower on every morning and having clean ,flowing drinking water. I have grown up with this from day one, so to have appreciation is hard when I have not know any better.

But how do I and my children learn to apperciate these daily things. I think one needs to be expose to different ways of life, even different families and people. Its when people take themselve outside the box can they truely think outside it. We have to want to expose and expore what is out there. And more importantly take time to reflect on the now, the experience we are going thru now, wheather that is eating a ice cream,being a parent, going to a theme park or being sick. What can I learn from this? what is the underlaying lesson or what am I going to take from this? If we question ourselves more, analysie and push ourselves outside that box, their would be less fear of the unknow, less worry of inexperencing and less holding back.

my Lord

I had an operation in late July. It was suppose to be a normal op, with recover after a few days. After two weeks, I still unwell. Its been hard and I have had a lot of patience. I contracted an infection, which made me really sick. Its only when your soo sick, hallucating from the fever, that one realises that The Guardian Lord is your true companion. Like I know my creator is always there, but its when I felt soo sick, soo in need that I cant stand on my two feet without assistance thats one understand how in need we really are. We have this body but it can be cut down at any time, even if we look after our health, this health is in the hands of God's will.

We are not going to be young for ever. This life is temporary so we have to get the most out of it.....in a way that will help us to grow in faith, love, hope and connection. What helped me in this sickness was thinking and praying to my Lord. Saying words of pray and zikr, helped my heart have hope and a inner peace of connection to a far greater Provider, Curer and Helper. We get soo busy with this life that we forget and over look the really important things. Things that money cant buy, like connection, a loving partner or child taking care of us in our greatest need, praying to God ; looking up at the sky and feeling the soft wind, just being.

God did not create in vain.

He created us for a reason.....have you found yours?

Deen

Just wanted to share one of my favorite quotes,

"In accordance with how good your expectations of and hope in allahswt are and how truthful your reliance and trust are in him, Allahswt will not betray your hopes in the least, as Heswt does not betray your hopes of those who hope and does not cause any effort to go to waste" Said by Abu-Muhammad al-Maqdisi in Salt prison in Jordan. From "Reflections Expecting the best from Allahswt". Great read mashallah.

Power of acknowledgement

I have been thinking why do we have such a need to have people acknowledge our existence? I know people that need others to constantly give attention to, and others that are very famously happy to be by themselves, in their own world. I think we all go thru stages when we can be bits of both, but the personality of a person I believe is kind of "set" in a certain matter, changing ever soo slowly as the years go by. You can see when a person wants to change their inner character when one sees modification in the way they speck, act and interact with others, when experiences, inner thinking, meeting goals and people all help that modification to a better or thats face it, worst human bean.

I have seen primary school children do this, write out a list of the "good' people and "bad" people in their lives.Since I was a child, I have done that over the years...write out a list of friends and cross out the ones I no longer click with, broken my trust or devalue who i am in some way. Of course excuse are made and modificates to find something "good' in that friendship to allow it the float the sea of time. Its funny to see that who is left, in many ways, are the ones that, like you, have weakness and faulths and some great qualities, but are trying....making effort to be a better person, or a person very much intune to themselves. What i mean, these friends, eventhou very different in character, care about others. They show you, as a friend that I do care about you in some way. One may not talk to them or see them offen...but you know in your heart this person values you

So that takes me to my original question of why is it people need to be acknowledge of there existence. I believe the answer is everyone to some degree needs to be valued, if not they will not exist for long. It goes back to Erickson and others belief that if a child is given physical need, such as food, shelter, etc but no attention, no love, no touch, they well not thrive. This has been proven many times. So we must not understimate the power of a smile, the power of a hug, the power of a touch and the power of listening. Try it, listening and aknowledging a person is not a ease as it seems, but when done in a matter of care and warm, it can be one the most powerful and life changing experience for some. With that the Prophet Muhammed SAW always had a smile on his face, and I hope that you and I can find something to smile about everyday of our lives ameen ;)